What Love Simon Means To Me

So I was lucky enough to see an early screening of Love, Simon about a month ago and I love it so godamn much ahhh. I wrote a spoiler free review here but the post I’m going to be writing today is a little more personal and is a little discussion post about how much Love, Simon means to me

I’ve been seeing a lot of people say that Love, Simon is not what gay teens need. I’ve seen a lot of people complain about how it’s unrealistic for a gay teen to have such a positive coming out experience, that they’re sick of watching movies about white privileged teens who have no problems in their life. And like yeah I get that some of these complaints are valid, I’m not saying that they’re not but Love, Simon is so important. I think it’s so important to show that even someone who is privileged, who is white, who has loving parents can struggle with coming out. I think it’s important for gay teens to see the cliche unrealistic reality that straight people get in Hollywood. No it’s not completely perfect (it kind of is tho) but it’s an amazing first stepping stone and I can’t wait to see what comes after Love, Simon.

“Okay yeah Hannah that’s cool but why does it mean so much to you?”

Because I’m gay. To be more specific, bi.

So yeah I’m bi but I’m not out to anyone and it’s not because I’m ashamed or scared of what people will say, it’s just because it’s not a part that I find really relevant to people getting to know me. Like yeah I like girls and guys and other genders but like I’m not going to tell everyone that I start to get to know that I love asparagus so why the fuck is who I am romantically attracted to any different ? And like yeah if I ever do fall in love with a girl and like starting dating her then of course I’ll tell the ppl around me but until then it’s not something that I’m going to make a big deal out of. If someone were ever to ask me outright I would tell them but again I don’t think it’s something that I’m ever going to tell anyone unsolicited. I am not at a point in my life where romance is an aspect of my life so my romantic orientation really isn’t that big of a deal.

So while Love, Simon doesn’t portray my experience as a queer teen, the emotions and feelings that Simon goes through are so relatable and he raises such a good point at one point in the movie. Why do only gay people have to come out? Why the fuck is straight the default. It should not be straight until proven otherwise, people should stop assuming other people’s fucking sexualities. It’s so frustrating and it just hurts so much. I showed one of my friends the trailer of Love,Simon because I was really excited for it and I wanted to share the love but he was kind of a huge asshole about it and was like “Why are you so excited for this movie? You’re not even gay.” Number one that’s fucking stupid, you don’t need to be gay to love the beauty that is Love,Simon. And number 2 how about you don’t assume my sexuality. This is a person that I kind of lowkey hate and makes me feel like shit so I’m not going to come out to him?? But jut because I haven’t told someone that I’m gay doesn’t mean I’m not? If I don’t say I’m straight then don’t fucking assume I am. Straight needs to stop being the default and I really hope that Love, Simon changes people’s mindset on what is the default. It hurts so much to have people assume your sexuality.

Obviously this movie doesn’t mean as much to me as it does to mlm but like still when the pickings are slim even the slightest representation that reminds you of your experience is important. I can’t believe that there’s a major motion picture that has a happy gay love story. Everyone deserves a great love story. And while I am extremely proud of who I am, I sometimes forget that. This movie is so important and I really hope that I get to see a movie with a character closer to my identity one day. I don’t know if I’ll be able to survive that though and may just die from happiness.

Have you seen Love, Simon yet? If not, are you going to?


The Bookish Community Isn’t Too Sensitive:A Discussion


So I’ve seen a lot of people complaining on Twitter, Tumblr and even WordPress about how the bookish community is “too sensitive.”so today I’d thought I just talk a little bit about it, and what my thoughts are because why not.


For the past couple of weeks and maybe even months, I have seen countless people complaining about how they feel attacked and how they’re being bullied because of the books they read and how they don’t feel like they can’t express their opinions properly. I disagree with  these statements on so many levels and I feel as though a lot of these are really unfounded  and not at all based on facts.


The first thing I’d like to address is the fact that people feel as though reading is no longer a fun experience and that they can’t enjoy a book without the fear of being judged. No one is asking you to not enjoy certain  books, everyone has their problematic faves. Everyone reads books that they know are bad but they still love. No one is telling you to stop enjoying those books. While you can enjoy these books, you also have to acknowledge the fact that the books that you enjoy have problematic aspects in them. You can like  something problematic, but what you can’t do is ignore the problematic aspects. Maybe consider not recommending  it to people, or supporting it quietly.  If you’re supporting a book that is more problematic more than a book that isn’t, then there’s a problem. At the end of the day, no one can stop  you from enjoying things that are deemed problematic, but you also have to realize that your voice does matter, and you may be persuading people to read one book when they could be reading a better and less problematic one.

A lot of people are really scared of being called out, and while I get it, I also think that you need to move past it when it does occur to you because it’s not a big deal. From what I’ve seen, noone is immediately going to attack you, they may politely tell you that what you’re reading is problematic and at that  point you just apologize.No one expects you to know every single book that is problematic, but once someone calls you out on it,try to change the way you see that book, and at least mention the problems when talking about the book.Everyone is capable of change. What’s not okay is ignoring what the person has said, and not even acknowledging them. There’s no shame in making mistakes but there’s plenty of shame in ignoring those mistakes.

I’ve also seen a lot of people say that too many books are being deemed problematic and that littlest of sentences  can make a book unreadable. Honestly at this point, it’s lazy  and prejudice writing to write even one small sentence that could be deemed as problematic. It isn’t that hard to avoid offensive phrasing if you care about the feelings of  the marginalized.If marginalized people are hurt, isn’t that enough reason. They have been oppressed for so long, they don’t need to see such offensive language or plotpoints in fiction as well.Writing one bad sentence doesn’t make you a bad person  but you can’t get all up in arms when people do mention it. Words do hurt, even  if it’s 10 words out of 70k. A good example of  an author taking criticism well is Becky Albertalli. In her debut novel, one of her characters said someone that was really offensive to lesbians. When people told her about how it hurt them, she apologized and in her next book she hired sensitivity readers to make sure that mistake wasn’t repeated.I feel as though this is less about people being sensitive as it is about marginalized people being sensitive. If someone white was to complain about some small little issue that bothered them no one would care,  they only care when people should actually be sensitive about the issue.It all comes down to the fact that  a lot of people still don’t want to hear marginalized people’s opinion.

Lastly I just wanted to commented about a fact that I’ve noticed quite frequently specifically concerning PoC speaking about these issues. PoC are expected to be the 100% polite while addressing these concerns, and the minute they use a little bit of snark, they’re deemed as unworthy of being listened to.If they want to be listened to they have to be completely polite, while white people can be so godamn rude and they’re actually praised for being “honest”. It’s not fair and people  need to check themselves when they do this. You may claim to not be racist, but when you call out PoC but you don’t call out white people, you are racist.

So What do you think?Feel Free to leave any comments or opinions you have down below